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THIS IS SO GOOD. It feels like reading through two best friends spitting facts in a podcast. I'm so sick of this nonchalant, grumpy, emotionally unavailable men era like omg surprisingly I like when the guy I like...likes me back???? And shows it???? And isn't a rude cunt???? Crazy right. Also that note is SO REAL. Me when men are normal and have a functional brain: 😆🤭🙏🏼🤞🏼

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MAHI!!! I LOVE YOU! And i’m also so sick of the nonchalant emotionally unavailable men, talk about ICK! Bring back loving someone without having to play a million games. US when a man has a brain: 😍🥰😘🤭💝

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RIGHT?? Like oh you wanna take me on a date and not a year long situationship where we basically do go on dates but call them friendly platonic hangouts instead? NO WAY!!! 😱😱😱😱. And ofc, you and Sarah ate it up yet again. Love both of you and wishing the best!!! ♡

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Boo boys!

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BOYS!!! EWWWW!!! 🤢🤢🤢

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had a weird/dreamy before-sunrise experience with one of These Types over the weekend and reading this felt like a sign from god to keep my head on straight, thank you

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kylie!!! and to think we almost lost you… 😔🥀 Glad we could be helpful!!! Love you!! ✨✨💓💓

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This was such a good read I loved it. I want to share my experience.

First of all, I am from Galicia, a northern region of Spain and these types of emotionally unavailable men show different traits here.

If a man were that interested in American indie films or alternative music and dressed like a Pinterest board, we would him "un moderno de Madrid". Which basically tranlaste to a modern person from the big city, in a mocking tone. This man speaks English, is absolutely obsessed with showing you how smart he is bc he knows aaaall this stuff about indie music or movies and is most likely upper middle class.

But the thing is, it is all superficial. When you try to engage him in a serious debate about the philosophers he likes and how do their teachings connect with him, he is absolutely lost. Bc he only knows this shit as an aesthetic, as a way to feel superior and intelligent. Just memorizing, no understanding.

My advice? Fuck this men (and not even literally bc so many of them are so selfish in bed) and continue your great life.

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Silvia!! I *have* to watch “Un Moderno de Madrid” (And get pissed off) now!! These traits of emotionally unavailable men are not unknown to me, but they make me so angry that i chose not to include them, because the meaning of the piece was to have fun, lol.

And i have to say, you’re so right. Fuck them! They have much to learn and much to heal yet. Not worth it!

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you guys are so amazing thank you for sharing, this universal experience with men is truly hard to understand this hit home

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aja!! thank you so much for reading! 🥹💌

it is truly hard to understand indeed lol! 😫

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incredible crazy awesome what!!!! this hits so hard it felt like a diss track, the words moved my eyes across the page until it was done. i'm obsessed with this piece. you two knocked this way way way out of the park (as usual)

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LOL GRIFFIN 😭 ur my fave

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Griffin!!! NOT THE DISS TRACK LMAO. We love you so much!! 🤭🤭🫶🏻

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LMAOOOO I LOVE YOU

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I love this!! 🌸

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We love YOU!! 🥹🫶🏻🌸💓

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the brainchild of my favorite girls was bound to be articulate, funny, and smart, and this did not disappoint! i absolutely love you both <3

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elle!!! our perfect little trio was the best thing that ever happened to me!!! i love you so much! you and Sarah are the bestest friends a girl could ever have! 🥹💝💐✨🫶🏻💌

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i love you elle 🪩🍰💌🤍🪐

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ugh, brilliant and so relevant, love u both!!

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love you tons!!!! 💌💌💌

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WE LOVE YOU LUISA!!!!! 🫶🏻✨🫶🏻🎀🩷

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okay pulling out the thoughts in my brain and the words in my head and the situations (unfortunately) happening to me. i heart people’s princess and certified for ever and ever

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Aw, n!! We’ve totally been there and we’re here to tell you that it gets better! You’re the best!!! And we heart YOU. 🥹💐💝

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This is so good! I usually refer such men as “those filled with weak sauce.”😆

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I’M LAUGHING SO HARD RIGHT NOW!!! OBSESSED WITH THIS! 🤭🤭🤭

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Loved this, so extremely real. Very timely as I saw my summer situationship (lol) for the last time two days ago to give him back his shirt. He went back to his "evil" ex less than week after we ended things so there's that. May all the lover girls survive the emotionally unavailable men pandemic :")

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Aww, i’m so sorry for that. That’s totally his loss, though. We’re totally giving you a big hug and giving you a bouquet of plushies. You deserve everything!!!! “May all the lover girls survive the emotionally unavailable men pandemic” AMEN to that! ✨💐💌🩷

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Well uhhh your three reasons just explained my own emotional unavailability to me since you def can't be securely attached going after these types of of guys 🥲

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Aw, Aliena! It happens to the best of us.. Men or Women lol.

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love this

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omg i love you!!

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I'm picturing you two sitting a café table and smoking cigs during this conversation. you have incredible flow and I'd love to see more collabs

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aw, molly!! thank you so much! I’m so happy you enjoyed it! 🥹🫶🏻💌💖

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